As I have been extremely lucky with the male role models in my life, so I have been equally blessed by my matriarchal characters.
I only knew my paternal Grandmother for a couple of years as she passed away when I was about 9 years old, and for the last few years she had been somewhat less than all there. I do however recall a wonderfully kind petite woman, whose experimentation with food was something years
(and years) ahead of it's time
(so far ahead that it would not be recognised today for the sheer genius that it displayed......deserts such as spaghetti pudding - along the same lines as rice pudding but made with left over spaghetti or main courses such as peanut butter beef. I know this had a lot to do with rationing and money being tight at times) She was also the "Babycham Queen" whose usual tipple was one in a martini glass and a marchino cherry
(and from whose stock my sister and I regularly plundered alcohol!) Unfortunately I never got to know her full story, although I know that she was born in Australia
(we have family who have been in Sons & Daughters, Flying Doctors and even Home and Away! How is that for a claim to fame!) and spent the war years as military nurse, meeting my paternal Grandfather on the last boat out of Singapore before it fell. It is from her that I have developed a desire to write and draw and explore...she was an extremely well published author
(ress? - although these were mainly romantic novels, so I doubt that I will follow that closely in her footsteps - unless it is a "How not to" guide!), my parents' house is full of oil and watercolour paintings by her, as well as pen and pencil sketches, and she travelled all over the world as a younger woman.
Of all my grandparents I knew my maternal Grandmother, Mutti, far better, and although she lost her battle with cancer earlier this year she remained an amazingly strong, proud and caring woman. She was Welsh, well she claims she was born just over the border in England, but she spent so long in Wales that she developed a fierce national pride
(and all the pessimism) of a true welsh woman. She was a huge sports fan and any game she watched, no matter how far ahead her team was, they would always loose
(definitely a glass half empty gal!) although again I suppose a result of her time during the war, when her husband was declared MIA for 6 months, before finally being reported as wounded in action. It is from her that I learnt my enjoyment of card games
(and ability to cunning distract and improve my situation!) , frustration with golf
(a significant amount of frustration) and my pride in being part Welsh. As a child I remember Mutti lived with her sister, a spinster who had spent 3 years in a concentration camp in France during the last war and who never seemed to put any weight on afterwards, Auntie Bobo
(we really did have some weird names for them!) about 30 miles from our home. Before we were allowed to stay over with friends me and my sisters were individually shipped off to stay with them for a weekend.....to get used to being away from home! It worked.....even though there were the creepiest pictures in the spare room....although I suppose that it ensured that we were never scared whilst away from home. In fact it worked so well with my oldest Sister that she stayed for a whole week
.....(I seem to remember that my other sister and I thought that this was fantastic!) Whilst all three have had a huge influence on me, the biggest by far has got to be my Mother. She was born in
Wales (so I can definitely maintain my Welsh pride! and whose stories usually result, after about 30 minutes of links and relationships, in death ....."You know so and so, who is so and so's Auntie, was the hairdresser of...........well anyway she's dead!" Watching the opening sequence to Dad's Army was always an eye opener as a child....."He's dead, he's dead, he's almost dead") and qualified as a Radiographer before meeting and marrying my Father. They decided that once they had children
(well I guess she did the hard part) she would stay at home and raise my Sisters and I. She has done a fantastic job, even though we probably
(okay not really any probably about it!) don't show it anywhere near enough! She has been a constant supporter and carer, someone who is a born worrier
(at times it can be annoying and frustrating) but who you know will always be on your side and be looking out for you. She has taught us to cook
(so that we are all able to feed ourselves) and although I have at times eaten at some pretty fancy places
(Maccy Dees & Chicken Georges to name but a few!) there is nothing as nice as my Mother's roast beef dinner! Although I know that at times my sisters and I have driven her up the wall with despair she has always remained a rock in times of trouble, and we love her for it!
(I have to also mention my surrogate Mothers at work, H.... and B..... [their identities have been disguised to protect the guilty], who have taken over responsibility as Mothers in Manchester after the most recent relationship breakdown, and to whom I am hugely grateful!)